Bullying, a simple word but this word turns to one of the youth biggest problems.
Bullying is a problem that affects millions of students, and it has everyone worried, not just the kids on its receiving end. Yet because the parents, teachers, and other adults don’t always see it, they may not understand how extreme bullying can get and its impact to the person most especially to the students.
Christopher Gumayan (not his true name to protect his identity)a third year high school student in a public school, victim of bullying. According to him, he was bullied by his classmate who is old enough to him. Every school day, myriads of tease and hit to the head he obtains from his classmates. As a result, Christopher is terrified to go to school and chooses to stay at home where he think he is safe and no others can bully him. (Obtained in real case)
Christopher is already one of the millions who maltreated by a bullying. This case must address immediately so that it will not affect other innocent students.
Before anything else, before we act in order to deteriorate this problem, we should be knowledgeable first about bullying in order to have a capacity to determine the issue and help who is victimized. Bullying is when a person is picked on over and over again by an individual or group with more power, either in terms of physical strength or social standing.
The main reasons why people are bullied are because of their appearance, capacity and social status. Bullies pick on the people they think don’t fit in, maybe because of how they look, how they act, their race or religion, or because the bullies think their target don’t have a capacity to fight them back.
Some bullies attack their targets physically (punching, hitting, shoving, and kicking). Others use psychological approach or verbal insults to put themselves in charge (For example, people in popular groups or cliques often bully people they categorize as different by excluding them or gossiping about them (psychological bullying). They may also taunt or tease their targets (verbal bullying). In the case of Christopher, he is a victim of physical and verbal bullying which is the common among the bully.
One of the most painful aspects of bullying is that it is relentless. Most students can take one scene of teasing to his or her peer. However, when it goes on and on, bullying can put a person fear constantly. Studies show that people who are abused by their peers are at risk for mental health problems, such as low self-esteem, stress, depression, worry and the worst—suicide.
In the case of Christopher, he developed stress, depression and anxiety because of his classmate who bullies him.
Both guys and girls can be bullies. Many bullies share some common characteristics. They like to dominate others and are generally focused on themselves. They often have poor social skills and poor social judgment. Sometimes they have no feelings of empathy or caring toward other people. Bullies are at risk for problems, too. Bullying is violence, and it often leads to more violent behavior as the bully grows up. It’s estimated that 1 out of 4 elementary-school bullies will have a criminal record by the time they are 30. Some teen bullies end up being rejected by their peers and lose friendships as they grow older. Bullies may also fail in school and not have the career or relationship success that other people enjoy. Insecurities sometimes is the reason why bullies bully, but the most prevailing among is that they they’ve been hurt by bullies in the past — maybe even a bullying figure in their own family, like a parent or other adult.
The bullies should always remember this, the more you hurt others, the more you hurt yourselves. When you want to bully someone or something, it is usually because you felt victimized by someone else. When your anger gets out of control, you suffer great shame. The angrier you get, the more shame you feel. You do not let your lives become ruptured by a moment of insanity. Nothing good can be accomplished by harming another, the end never justifies the means.
Some bullies actually have personality disorders that don’t allow them to understand normal social emotions like guilt, empathy, compassion, or remorse. These people need help from a mental health professional like a counselor, social worker, psychiatrist, or psychologist.
So what can you do to solve bullying and how to prevent it? For younger kids, the best way to solve a bullying problem is to tell a trusted adult. For teens, though, the tell-an-adult approach depends on the bullying situation. Adults in positions of authority — parents, teachers, or coaches — often can find ways to resolve dangerous bullying problems without the bully ever learning how they found out about it.
It is vital to report bullying if it threatens to lead to physical danger and harm. Numerous high school students have died when stalking, threats, and attacks went unreported and the silence gave the bully license to become more and more violent. Sometimes the victim of repeated bullying cannot control the need for revenge and the situation becomes dangerous for everyone.
If you’re in a bullying situation that you think may escalate into physical violence, try to avoid being alone (and if you have a friend in this situation, spend as much time together as you can). Try to remain part of a group by walking home at the same time as other people or by sticking close to friends or classmates during the times that the bullying takes place.
In the case if Christopher again, he is now going to school without any second thought and frightened feelings because he already know how to combat bullying. In addition, he already unconcealed his problem to his teacher, and to his parent as a result, his bullies ask forgiveness to him and promise not to bully him anymore.
The statistics of suicide of innocent people who have been the victims of bullying is staggering and alarming. We need to make this issue a priority, whether at home, in school, the government, or at work; we cannot afford to lose another beautiful soul. There is so much written now concerning this subject. We need to get to the people who bully as quickly as possible. We need to get to them before someone gets hurt. Harnessing Happiness tools are designed to bring things up, revealing the difficulties. The dark side gets exposed to the light. It is so important that problems be solved before they become impossible.